10 Feb

dreamsOne of the many things that I listen to in my life for guidance, along with that “gut-feeling” and “following my heart” is that of my dreams. I have always kept a dream journal beside my bed and believe that if I really look at my dreams and try to figure out what they are trying to tell me about myself; it leads to significant improvements in my waking life.

I don’t dream every night, but I dream a lot when there is something major going on in my life. So, it wasn’t surprising when I was talking to one of my brides a couple weeks ago and she mentioned that she had been having a lot of dreams lately about her wedding! She dreamt that she showed up at the church for her wedding and no one was there. Not her family, friends, bridesmaids or fiancée! Of course, I knew that this was caused from the stress that the wedding had put on her relationship with her fiancée.  We talked through it, and the basis of her dream seemed to be that she saw herself turning into a BRIDEZILLA and she didn’t like herself very much. Once she saw that this was the meaning… she knew how to move forward and fix it. I am happy to report that she hasn’t had a horrible wedding dream since!
A wedding is an important “stage of life”. For many, it is the point that we finally go from being a child to an adult. It is when we go from depending on others to forming a new family unit. It is where we begin to face the issues of raising children, buying houses and trusting another person completely.


Look at your own life. It might be that you actually are considering marriage and are wondering how i will affect you…. or it could be that another serious life change is presenting itself to you, and the wedding symbolizes this huge change you are going through. It represents a wish or need for a harmonizing balance, transition or change. Dreams can point out anxieties or fears about changes that will occur in your identity or role.

Is the wedding a happy one, full of love and joy? This would show your readiness to make this change, to move on with your life and mature.

Is the wedding a stressful one, full of worries and troubles? This would indicate that you’re not yet ready for the change. You’re happy to be without responsibility, to not deal with the stresses and issues that come with moving forward in life.
If you are getting married and have dreams of your pending wedding, then it highlights the stress of organizing a wedding.  Conflicts over wedding details, tension with family and in-laws, fear of commitment, and loss of independence may all cause wedding anxiety dreams.  Research has shown that up to 40% of brides and grooms have dreams about their ceremony and things going perfectly.

Many experts, including William Dement, MD, PhD, a Stanford professor known as the “father of sleep medicine,” believe that dreams contain personal messages — and are linked to our emotions and mood. Others believe that dreams are simply random byproducts of the brain’s chemical changes.

There hasn’t always been rampant disagreement about dreams. For decades, scientists followed the theories of Sigmund Freud, who wrote in 1900 that dreams provide a harmless way to act out our unconscious fears or taboo thoughts.

If people weren’t able to dream, Freud said, they would become psychotic.

One of my goals as a wedding planner is to relieve the stress and burden during a process that can be overwhelming and a cause of stress. I want my brides and grooms to enjoy the engagement period and look forward to their wedding day with excitement and anticipation! I see myself not only as a planner, but also a CFO, consultant, therapist, negotiator, inspirer, and now…..  a dream interpreter.

I decided that it would be interesting to look into what the meaning of what different wedding dreams mean. Here is what I found.


(Source: http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/w2.html )

The marriage in your dream may represent the union of the different sides of your own character. This is a positive dream symbol because it suggests a degree of self-awareness and integration. Many people dream about weddings during times of stress and difficulty. Based on superstition some cultures believe that dreaming of a wedding is a negative omen that generally represents a period of grief and possibly death.

(Source: http://www.meaningofdreams.org/Dream_Dictionary/Wedding.html)

OTHER MOST POPULAR DREAMS (and their meanings):

Dreams of flying. Dreams of flying represent feelings of freedom that may result from an instance when you overcame a limitation or obstacle. Usually, children have more flying dreams than adults, Norris said, because children are more open to their possibilities, and adults have often accepted limitations imposed by society.

Teeth falling out. Food in a dream is symbolic of knowledge because food nourishes the physical body and knowledge nourishes the soul. Teeth are a means to break down food or knowledge. When your teeth fall out in a dream, it could signify that you feel ill-equipped to break down the knowledge that you have available, that the way you break things down has changed. That change can be either positive or negative.

High school dreams. Either you’re woefully unprepared for a big test or you’re naked. High school is a place of learning from the past, Norris said, and dreaming of being unprepared for a high school test can indicate a struggle to access information you need to handle in your life.

Being naked in a dream indicates open and honest expression. Clothes represent how we express ourselves and the face we show the public. If your dream nudity makes you feel embarrassed, this could mean that you need to work on being more open and honest in your daily life. If your nudity doesn’t bother you, you are more comfortable with your self expression.

Recurring dreams and nightmares. Recurring dreams are your subconscious mind’s way of trying to get your attention. A recurring dream is a step down from a nightmare that is a louder, more insistent way your subconscious mind communicates. If you have a recurring dream, Norris recommends trying to stop in the dream and identify what the dream is trying to tell you. That could mean asking someone who is chasing you what he or she wants as in the case Norris recalls of a woman who dreamed for years that an old, haggard woman was chasing her around her home. When she finally stopped in the dream and asked the old woman what she represented, the old woman suddenly turned into a beautiful young woman and replied, “I represent your question of ‘what if?’”


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