“Armani Doesn’t Make a Navy Tuxedo”

20 Jun

fob3“I used to think a wedding was a simple affair. Boy and girl meet, they fall in love, he buys a ring, she buys a dress, they say I do. I was wrong. That’s getting married. A wedding is an entirely different proposition. I know. I’ve just been through one. Not my own, my daughter’s. Annie Banks Mackenzie.”

Any girl from my generation grew up watching Father of The Bride (part I and part II).  Not the original, with Elizabeth Taylor, but the remake from 1991. Filled with cake tasting, menu selection, an eccentric wedding planner (Franck), engagement parties, and everything wedding!

I, of course, adored it. Not just because I am quite the Daddy’s Girl and was touched by the relationship Annie Banks (played by Kimberly Williams-Paisley) had with her Dad, George Banks (played by Steve Martin). But I fell in love with the idea of hosting a private home wedding reception! It’s a romantic idea. Luckily, Hollywood made sure that Annie had that quirky wedding planner to help her ….. but as a real-life wedding planner there were things in the movie that I would NEVER allow to happen at one of my events.fob2

1.)   George Banks (FOB) seemed shocked that all of his furniture had to be taken out of his house so that they might host that many guests. Clients should always be warned of the time, energy and expense it takes to host this kind of event in a private home. While venues offer the space, designed and laid out for special events, homes are designed to live in. If you choose to host a large event in your private home, there will be expenses (tenting, rental furniture, chairs, tables, linens, lighting,  ect.) It may be worth the extra expense in the end to have your dreams come true, but it’s always best to know what you’re getting into at the beginning of the process instead of the FOB left wondering where it all went, after the fact.

fob42.)   PARKING! No one planned for parking! It’s a private, residential street and there were at least 100 cars.  With a lack of parking attendants & spaces…. The movie portrays 12-year-olds parking cars on the front lawn. While this was funny in the movie, the situation should have never gotten this way. With proper planning, transportation can be arranged for your guests. Weather it’s self-parking, valet parking, golf carts or trolleys … it’s important to get your guests to your event without a traffic jam!

3.)  Timelines: Because the FOB was busy handling the parking situation, George Banks missed the father-daughter dance. How do you MISS the chance to dance with your dad at your wedding? This should never happen because your wedding planner would make sure that you are both available before the dance starts so that you both have the moment to make that lasting memory. Later on in the movie, we also see George scrambling through the masses of people to see his daughter off as she leaves for her honeymoon… he misses that too…. tugging at my heartstrings! He never gets to see his daughter at her own reception and this happens all to often when family members are left to ‘work’ the event.

4.)   Dinner: To further develop the movie line, the FOB never gets to eat the delicious food he is paying $250/head for. With buffet, and poor planning, hundreds of people form a really long line, and he is stuck at the end of it. It shouldn’t ever take that long for your guests to eat. How can planning help? With professional caterers, crowd control tactics and a planner to make sure that the most important people get served first.fob1

5.)  The Cops Show Up! You never want to see blue lights at your reception. Private home receptions require special permits, bathroom accommodations, noise permits and parking/traffic considerations. Get a professional planner who has the knowledge of how to host an event, follow the rules, and handle the ‘fires’ that popup!

Even though I am less romanticized by the movie then I was before, I still watch it every single time it comes on cable. Each time,  I find myself a little more furious with that wedding planner. Where was he during the reception to deal with these issues, or better yet – plan ahead to avoid the issues?  When you look to hire your wedding planner, make sure you get someone who loves to make your day go flawlessly, not just for you, but your family, guests and friends … especially your Father of the Bride!


One Response to ““Armani Doesn’t Make a Navy Tuxedo””

  1. Lisa kestler June 20, 2013 at 3:40 pm #

    Just a great “take” on the movie. great points!!! Really, where was that crazy Fronk the planner???? Enjoyed this one!

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